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Suzy Mighell

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  1. Teri
    September 20, 2017 @ 12:10 am

    Some very good advice here! I “fall back into mom-mode” too often with my adult children. Need to work on that…

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      September 20, 2017 @ 10:06 am

      Teri, It’s tough! I do it too, but always try to apologize and tell them I’m working on it – and that seems to help! We’re all there together, gal! xoxo Suzy

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  2. Lyn O
    September 20, 2017 @ 9:19 am

    I love the One-on-One time in #5 of your article. My grown daughters both moved to the East coast while my husband and I are on the West Coast, so last year I planned a long weekend trip to visit each of them individually for the first few days before their birthday. After a few days I pay to have their sister visit for the rest of the weekend too! We always have a fun weekend of shopping, seeing a movie or concert, and celebrating!

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      September 20, 2017 @ 10:09 am

      Lyn, I absolutely LOVE that idea! You re a good mom! Those girls need to talk, don’t thiey? But we love it! Thanks for sharing your great idea. One other thing I was thinking about – but didn’t have room to fit in – is the challenge of not “gossiping” about one child to another. (It doesn’t really seem like “gossip” since it’s all in the family, but still…) I’d love to know your thoughts on that! xoxo Suzy

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  3. Nancy Lacke
    September 20, 2017 @ 11:14 am

    Hi Suzy,

    One of the questions I use with my adult children – rather than give advice is – What do you need from me or What can I do for you? It may be they just need me to listen and support them.

    Can you have one on one time with a married adult child?

    <3

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      September 20, 2017 @ 11:21 am

      Nancy,
      That is a great question to ask adult children! I’m totally stealing that!!! Thanks for sharing that idea.
      I do think you can have one-on-one time with a married child but it probably ends up more gender-specific. The best thing to do is probably to invest in shared activities. My husband is playing golf with our married son this weekend! I use “little touches” with our daughter-in-law, which builds my relationship with her, thus the two of them enjoy us a couple more, I think. I hope that helps! xoxo Suzy

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  4. Nad
    September 21, 2017 @ 11:35 am

    This is good! Thank you! I have a teenager and as he changes from my “little boy” to being a young adult, I keep thinking and looking for information on ways to mantain our relationship as it evolves 🙂

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      September 21, 2017 @ 4:25 pm

      Nad,
      Thank you for your comment! It is tricky at that age where they are teens one minute and semi-adults the next – and you never know which you’re going to get at any given moment! I’m so glad this was helpful to you! xoxo Suzy

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  5. Donna
    September 22, 2017 @ 8:05 am

    Excellent advice! It’s a whole different ball game when they are on their own and are married or in a committed relationship. My brothers were very wise and one told me, “Your kids won’t live the way you think they should.”. In other words, they are their own people, see the world differently. Another brother told me, “You could have a dozen kids and they would all be different. You love them all but you love them differently.”. One of my daughters moved back to Indiana and is just a few miles down the road. The oldest daughter is in McKinney TX and we send texts, pictures, funny things from Pinterest (recipes too!) and post on Instagram. Both girls are busy but these little connections are sweet.

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      September 22, 2017 @ 10:45 am

      Donna,
      It sounds like you are doing a great job with your adult kids and I thought your advice and words of wisdom were good. It can be tough when you see them heading in a direction that you know (from experience or from knowing them so well) will not be good, but I think it’s always great advice to prioritize the relationship when trying to decide what to do! Thanks for your comment! xoxo Suzy

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  6. Melody Smith
    September 24, 2017 @ 9:42 am

    Suzy, this is spot-on! We’ve learned the same things about dealing with our adult children. The key is to remain supportive and loving without nagging or lecturing (a pretty tall order for me, that’s for sure!) Thank you for this inspired post.

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      September 24, 2017 @ 3:18 pm

      Thanks, Melody! It means a lot to me that you agree! Parenting adult kids takes a tremendous amount of self-control, don’t you think? It’s challenging! xoxo Suzy

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  7. Elvira Torres
    December 17, 2020 @ 5:51 pm

    I need help with building back my relationship with my daughter/daughter in law. Estranged from me for almost a year and I miss my granddaughters. They are 1 and 3.
    I needed emergency surgery, and my daughter finally reached out to me. So thru text, she communicates and sends me pictures. I want to talk to her. I miss her voice and I miss talking to my granddaughter who’s 3. My daughter and I had a misunderstanding and she said she needed to live her own life. Slowly she’s coming back. Any suggestions?

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    • EmptyNestBlessed
      December 17, 2020 @ 6:00 pm

      Hi Elvira,
      I’m so sorry to hear about your difficult situation. It must be so painful for you. I would recommend that you be humble and ask forgiveness (not “I’m sorry, but actually say, “Please forgive me.”) for anything you did to harm the relationship. Then do not blame. She knows what her part was in the estrangement. It’s great to let her know you miss the granddaughters, but let her know that your relationship with her is the most important. And PRAY! Lots of prayers!
      xoxo
      Suzy

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      • Elvira Torres
        December 17, 2020 @ 6:30 pm

        Thank you so much for that, I pray everyday that God helps me to soften her heart ❤️ my DIL sent me a really nasty text and it was hurtful. Because I’m a single mom and until my daughter met her we had a wonderful relationship but I love my daughter in law like my own daughter. I’ve been good with giving space and I’m seeking therapy and finally asked for help with an anti-depressant. Thank you 🙏

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