Whew! We’re just back from a five day, nine-person, multi-generational trip in the mountains of Idaho. We took a group ranging in age from 21 to 81, and we made memories to last a lifetime. The best news of all? We still love each other!????????
Today I’m going to tell you where we went and why, and I’m going to share my tips on how to navigate a multi-generational trip. I’m going to be honest about what we did well and what we would do differently next time.
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Tip #1: Know These Things Before You Go
We’ve vacationed with our family a lot. (but never with nine family members!) Here are a few things we’ve learned over the years:
- Honor your differences. Whether your family is into the Enneagram, Myers-Briggs, Strengths Finder, or what have you, understanding different personality types, strengths, and temperaments will help you enjoy one another while minimizing irritation. (Even if you just remember who’s an introvert and who’s an extrovert, it’ll help!)
- Everyone’s idea of a relaxing vacation is different. Some people like active vacations where they immerse themselves in activities that they would never do at home. Some people like to read in a lounge chair by the pool for hours. Still others like to spend time in deep conversations that the pace of normal life doesn’t usually allow. All of these are valid! Others may not relax the way you do, but they’re probably still relaxing in their own way.
Tip #2: Unite Behind a Common Purpose
What’s the main purpose behind your multi-generational trip? Are you celebrating a 50th wedding anniversary? Is someone having a milestone birthday? Are you going to share a common experience that you love, like fishing, hiking, or sightseeing? It’s important to keep the common purpose in mind as you plan.
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The primary purpose behind our multi-generational trip was to support and cheer on our daughter, Becca, as she performed in several productions at Starlight Mountain Theatre in Garden Valley, Idaho. Several members of our family had never seen her perform at a professional level, and we knew she would feel so loved if we were all there to encourage her. (She did????!)
Where We Went and Why
Way back in January, our daughter, Becca, who is a working (and self-supporting!????????) musical theater actress, booked a summer stock contract at Starlight Mountain Theatre, an outdoor theater in beautiful Garden Valley, Idaho. When she booked it, we immediately planned a multi-generational trip, booked an Airbnb that would sleep all nine of us????, and started booking flights.
When THE COVID hit later in the spring, Becca was touring the country in a show with a children’s theater, which was canceled. She fully expected the summer contract would be canceled as well. But with no cases in remote Garden Valley, and most Idaho cases centered in Boise (1½ hours away), the contract was delayed, but remained in place. She reported on May 15th and jumped right into rehearsals.
In late June, we headed out to Garden Valley, Idaho to see her as Martha Cox in Disney’s High School Musical (Watch the movie version HERE.), as Fiona in Shrek, the Musical (Watch the Broadway version HERE.), and as the Wardrobe in Beauty and the Beast (Watch the Broadway version HERE.).
Tip #3: Do Your Research
We were traveling to an area of the country we were unfamiliar with, and going to a remote, rural area made getting info about our destination challenging. It quickly became apparent that we were going to have to play it by ear somewhat and be flexible. In a big group, some people are bound to prefer that kind of trip, while others do not.
Bob and I did what we could, putting together an itinerary—with everyone’s’ flight info (we were on different flights), and links to anything we could find links for: our cabin, area restaurants, places to shop, etc. I would recommend doing this! The mistake we made was stopping there!! Looking back, we should have done some kind of family Zoom meeting beforehand to make sure everyone was on the same page. More on that later.
Tip #4: Anticipate Potential Problems
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We checked with our Airbnb host about WiFi, and he told us the WiFi in the cabin was excellent. He did not tell the truth! It was a challenge the entire trip! The good thing was that it kept us off our phones and talking to each other! The bad thing was that when people had work emergencies (or wanted to post something on Instagram ????????♀️), it was extremely frustrating!
We knew from talking to our daughter that we would have poor cell service in the mountains of Idaho, but none of us realized how poor it would be! (We basically had none outside of our cabin or in the town.) This made communication a constant challenge! Looking back, we probably should have anticipated this and brought walkie-talkies just in case.
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Tip #5: Know Your Group
We went with a group that ranged in age from 21 to 81! Everyone in our group was an adult, so everyone had personal preferences for everything from food and drinks to activities and bedtimes. We agreed that we wouldn’t cook dinners – there were enough restaurants nearby, and nobody wanted the stress of working within dietary restrictions or preferences.
Even though we were all there to see and support Becca, looking back, we realize that everyone in our group had a slightly different mindset about the trip. For some in our group, it was their family vacation for the summer. Others in the group had specific activities they really wanted to do. Still others wanted as much “togetherness” as possible. Bob and I wish we’d been more aware and more mindful of these varying mindsets. We could have done that with more advance communication. More on that later.
Tip #6: Someone Has to Lead
Bob and I were the trip organizers, and we decided early on that in a big group like that, someone’s got to lead at least some of the time. What we didn’t want was to get into a “cruise director” mindset!???? Our idea was that everyone on our trip was an adult, so we should let everyone be an adult and pretty much do their own thing. We knew that (because our family enjoys one another), there would be open invitations for everyone to join one other for anything from hiking to fishing. (Which happened!????????)
Since we had specific activities every night (Becca’s shows), it provided some structure to our days. We let everyone know when we would be leaving for dinner and kept track of the show tickets, etc., but that was pretty much the extent of our “leadership.”
Looking back, I wish we’d delegated more. Since we were going with a group of adults, we should have asked the people who really enjoy planning vacations for help! Those who enjoy researching restaurants could have been in charge of that. Others who love activities could have researched those and made some plans. The people who love games could have been in charge of bringing those. And so forth.
All was humming along fine until we tried to do an all-day, full-group activity! We planned to drive about two hours through the mountains to a beautiful, clear lake we’d heard about and wanted to see. Immediately, there were differences in opinion about what time to leave, where to eat, etc! We did have a great meal at a cute restaurant, but by the time we got to the lake, it was so crowded, we couldn’t find a parking place. We basically had to turn around and head home. Everyone was disappointed.
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Tip #7: Communicate in Advance With the Group
Looking back, as I said earlier, it would have been helpful to know if there were activities and mindsets that group members had going into the trip. Instead, we let our previously distributed itinerary suffice. It wasn’t enough. Face-to-face (or virtual) communication would have been better.
We should have had a family Zoom meeting a week or so before leaving and asked everyone two questions:
- Are there any activities you really want to do?
- What are you most looking forward to?
If your group includes infants or small children, this is even more important! Be sure to check with parents in advance on things like naptimes, noise level requirements, eating schedules, etc. Then make everyone in the group aware of those things. The same goes if your group includes members with health issues that may affect the group at large.
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Tip #8: Adjust Your Expectations
When you go on a family vacation, being together as a family is the main point????????! The purpose of a multi-generational family trip is to grow in your relationships with one another. It’s important that everyone go into the trip with this understanding and expectation.
It’s also important to realize that it is inevitable that someone (or more than one someone) will be disappointed or frustrated at some point. Leading a trip like this is fun, but it can be stressful! As the famous saying goes,
“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.”John Lydgate
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Tip #9: Be Flexible
On a multi-generational trip, everyone in the family will need to be flexible and compromise at some point. There will be times when the needs of the group may have to take precedence over individual preferences. This might include the type of accommodations, activities, meals, and more. On our multi-generational trip, for example, five people shared one bathroom! As one of two girls in that group of five, I’ll tell you—by the end of our trip, things got very hairy in that bathroom ????!
Tip #10: Enjoy!
Without a doubt, the best thing about a multi-generational trip is that everyone will get to know one another on a deeper level. Our family had conversations that might never have happened otherwise. We gained insight into one another’s lives and interpersonal relationships. We learned to understand each other better and appreciate each other more.
There were definitely things we’d do differently next time, but overall, we had so much fun. We came out the other end with sweet memories and a whole lot of gratitude for our family.
Have you ever taken a multi-generational trip? I’d love to hear your tips! Please leave me a comment, and share!